Create Magical Relationship

Create magical relationship in every interaction you have with others, and you create a life of love and joy.  It’s that simple.  The ability to create magical relationship is essential to happiness.

No matter what you have in your life, if you don’t have fulfilling relationships that you enjoy, you will never be unleashed.  Living unleashed requires positive, fun relationship interaction.  It requires knowing how to create magical relationship, i.e., how to create a love relationship with everyone in your life.

Love Relationship

“Love relationship” is a term usually used to describe a relationship between two lovers.  But in reality a love relationship is any good relationship.

Obviously, you want love in intimate relationships.  And you want love in family relationships like parent-child relationships.  And you want love in your friendships. 

But love in business relationships and  in casual relationships like those you have with service people and neighbors and other acquaintances?  Absolutely!  Yes, love must be in those relationships too.

When you can make every relationship you have a love relationship, you have the secret ingredient to the potion that will allow you to create magical relationship.  Building love relationships instead of just ordinary relationships will transform your life.

A love relationship isn’t about gushing or touching or anything else you might find in an intimate relationship.  A love relationship is a RACCOON. 

Say what?

No, I’ve not lost my marbles.  RACCOON is an acronym for the six parts of a great love relationship (and remember, that means the six parts of ANY good relationship):

Respect

Acceptance

Caring

C ompassion

Openness

Optimizing

Naturalness

1.  Respect—Respect means concern, attention, regard, and esteem.  When you give and receive respect, you honor yourself and the other person in the relationship.

Respect is about valuing.  It’s looking for the good and being grateful for it. 

2.  Acceptance—Acceptance means allowing.  It means willing to let something or someone be exactly is it or he or she is.

When you can have acceptance for both yourself and others, you can easily create magical relationship.  Acceptance removes judgment and anger.  It softens every encounter.

3.  Caring—Caring is self explanatory.  You must care about yourself and the person with whom you’re relating.

The person’s wellbeing and welfare must matter to you if you want to create magical relationship with a person.  If you remember that you are part and parcel of every other person you relate with because we are all, at our core, energy, you can have caring for anyone.

4.  Compassion—Compassion is the ability to empathize with another human being. 

If you can put yourself in the other person’s shoes, you are far more likely to communicate with gentle understanding.  Compassion makes it easier to have acceptance.

5.  Openness—Openness encompasses intimacy and honesty.  You cannot create magical relationship when you relate with falseness.

Be willing to share yourself, your true self (after first being willing to find that true self on your own).  Be courageous enough to speak and act from your truth.  This willingness and courage will give you what you need to be open. 

6.  Optimizing—Optimizing is about intention.  When you make it your intention to have every relationship you have be of value to you and the other person, you are optimizing the relationship.

Optimizing a relationship is essential to being able to create magical relationship.  Think of it this way: 

Imagine you’re sitting down to channel surf.  The attitude with which you watch what’s on the TV is not an optimizing attitude.  You’re just lazily engaging in whatever you land on.

Now imagine that you’ve rented a movie you’ve been looking forward to seeing.  You make popcorn, settle in, and you focus all your attention on the screen.  Now you’re optimizing your viewing experience. 

Most people tend to have a channel surf mentality about all relationships.  When you can treat every relationship as a movie experience, valued and focused, you’re optimizing your relationships.

7.  Naturalness—Naturalness is removing any need for perfection from relating with others.  It’s going with the flow.

Natural relating is relaxed and comfortable.  Think of it as the difference between tuxedo relating and comfy old cut-off denim relating.  Instead of being stiff and awkward, it’s easy and enjoyable.